Books about parenting can be a great resource in coming to grips with your child’s attention seeking behavior. Many children like to get noticed, it is common and normally nothing to be worried of. But numerous parents get worried and try to find out for some strategies to be used. From always giving in to your child to always standing firm, there is a wide spectrum of approaches.
Most people would say they have no pre-determined parenting strategy; that it comes naturally to them and they do what they feel is best. Others don’t feel comfortable unless they have read the ‘manuals’ and have a proscribed method to follow. No matter which school of thought you fit in, the problems faced are identical. The most common issue faced by parents is Attention seeking behaviour. The following strategies may help you deal with it.
1. Do not usually respond
Children try to get noticed by you. Whether that is positive or negative attention, if they get a result from their actions they will do it again and again. If they always get your attention, they might repeat the same behaviour again. According to the parenting strategy, this kind of behaviour needs to be ignored sometimes.
2. Encourage good behaviour
Your child requires attention. Make sure they get positive attention for positive behaviour. A positive parenting strategy like this encourages further good behaviour as the child will see that it gets more results than their negative behaviour.
3. Spend quality time with your child
Make sure you spend enough time with your children, and let them know that the time spent was special for you. Even if it is only 10 minutes, tell them that it is their special time with you and do something worthwhile. It’s no good cooking the dinner and trying to talk to them while you’re doing it – the child won’t see that as attention. Any parenting strategy must include devoted time with your children daily.
4. Let them know your limits
Depending on your child?s age tell them that you have to deal with other things or other children also. No parenting strategy will eliminate the need to do your chores! Sometimes a response such as “I’ll play the game when I’ve finished the laundry” will stop whining and nagging, but only if you follow through when you say it. There’s no point saying “in 5 minutes” and never get to the 5 minutes. Try to involve your child in your work.
5. Know what to do when it gets too much
Sometimes people who like to get noticed may fall into a serious problem. If you’re worried about your child’s behaviour, you must see the family doctor, who can advise you and suggest you to be in touch with some other agencies that can be helpful. If you feel you are getting too stressed by your child, then it is also important to get some help, and most doctors are very sympathetic to such problems. Unfortunately no parenting strategy will lead to a stress-free life. And through all this stress, you can find solace in books about parenting that are widely available and that can guide you on exactly how to deal with this sress.
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